Ask Without the Guilt

Is it ok to ask for what you want without feeling guilty? Yes, if you understand the Law of Receptivity: Whatever I give out graciously, comes back to me multiplied. Usually guilt crops up if we’ve been afraid to give because we believe there’s not enough. Then we are hesitant to ask or even receive our good because we’ve already been stingy and fearful and holding back with our giving.

Practice giving a compliment, a card, an email, a phone call. Then work your way up to  taking someone to coffee or practicing an act of kindness. Stretch your giving genes and open the space to receive. God has plenty to give when you are ready to receive. Praise God!

Practicing Forgiveness


I’ve been working with forgiveness for the past few weeks. Mother Theresa said, “If we really want to love, we must learn how to forgive.” I noticed how limited I am when I am feeling separate from others.

It is easier to forgive when I learn to reflect and not react. Reacting to behavior of others causes stress and pain.

Dr. Wayne Dyer stated it best, “How do you get world peace? You get world peace through inner peace. If you’ve got a world full of people who have inner peace, then you have a peaceful world.” I’m practicing.

Commit to Love

Have you ever noticed when you commit to being more loving in your life, your mouth speaks unkind words or your brain thinks angry thoughts? You’re not crazy. It’s all part of the healing process.

Whenever we declare our highest intention, everything unlike that comes up to be healed. Unless we are aware of this fact, our experience can be discouraging and disappointing. It’s like a spiritual rotor rooter cleaning out all the old feelings so our new intention can shine through.

The first time I declared joy as my purpose, I cried at least once a day for 30 days. I was so frustrated until I understood the process. I let myself grieve and released all the pent-up pain and suffering. The crying eventually stopped and the quiet presence of joy filled my heart.

Whatever divine ideal you claim for yourself: joy, love, peace, wholeness, is already working its way into your thinking, your speaking and into the cells of your body. Just be patient. It has to do a little spring cleaning first.

Ultimate Sales Strategy

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My client was frustrated. She provides a valuable service and has an easy time meeting people. She was stuck when it came time to telling them about her business.  She didn’t want to be a pushy salesperson.

The word ‘salesperson’ is so 1970’s. I know very few salespeople. The guy who sold me my car was one.  The telemarketer who tried unsuccessfully to sell me a vacation in Las Vegas was another. They weren’t interested in me; they wanted me to buy what they had.

I shared with my client that she didn’t need to sell anything. She has been in her industry for 20 years, has a wealth of information and a list of successful clients. Her job is to get to know people and what they are interested in. The more engaged we are in others, the more engaging we are to others.  The power is in building relationships. Businesses become successful because of our relationships and how much we care for each other.

I’d like to take credit for this insight but it came from observing my beloved husband Laurence. I watched as he built his business from the ground up. I noticed how he paid attention to people and remembered facts about their families and interests. His legacy was that he sincerely wanted to see others succeed. In return, he excelled and prospered in his work.

The gift is living by intention and having that intention be focused less on the desire to possess and more on being inspired to express. Love works.

Be Nice to You

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Being nice is often a cover-up for what we really feel about ourselves. We want to be loved, acknowledged, appreciated, treasured and cherished. But when that little voice inside tells us that we are unworthy, we change into our superwoman gear and attempt to show the world that we are nice, capable, reliable, and dependable. Trying so hard to appease others, we tend to neglect our own goals and dreams.

It is possible to give without giving up balance, to ask for what we want without sacrificing harmony, and to be good without depleting our self-worth. Setting boundaries, nurturing ourselves, learning to speak up help us maintain balance and strengthen our worthiness. 

Nurturing ourselves does not mean we are being selfish or narcissistic. Nurturing serves to renew and revitalize. As we nurture and take care of ourselves we expand our spiritual connection, which allows us to deepen our faith and trust our experience in the world.

Wise words from Buddha, “You yourself, as much as anyone in the entire universe, deserve your affection and love.” Be nice to you!

 

ABC’s

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I was driving my friend to the train station after a wonderful visit when we got stuck in construction work and a traffic jam. I found myself complaining the whole time and felt frenzied by the drive. I got her to the train station, drove to my next appointment and found myself exhausted. Complaining is a sure-fire way to lose energy, motivation and enthusiasm.

Accusations, blame and criticism are the ABC’s of complaining. If we believe our words have power, then using them to complain keeps our problems alive. The Law of Attraction works both ways: Whatever we put our attention on increases. Focused attention on what is not working causes energy and vitality to spiral down.

I love this quote from Emma Curtis Hopkins. “I am satisfied with the world in which I walk. All things please me. Near me is the presence of Good. I am a creation of the living God, perfect, harmonious and satisfying.”

I think I would rather engage in the ABC’s of harmony: Appreciate, bless and compliment. I appreciate the opportunities and blessings I have today and everyday!