I was cleaning out some files and found a letter from a co-worker from many years ago. I was manager of a project and she didn’t like the way I handled a conflict. She criticized the things I did wrong and what I said. She scolded me for not listening and not responding to the needs of others.
Now, my question is why did I save this letter? I have received stacks of notes, cards and letters over the years thanking me for something I shared or taught and for how clients were inspired from my work with them.
Isn’t that what we do? We remember the things gone wrong, the mistakes we made, and the people we hurt. We dwell on the negative hoping we will never make that mistake again.
I learned so much from working with that project. I discovered a lot about myself and how to communicate with others. I realized the power that love and forgiveness play in every interaction. Marianne Williamson reminds us, “The practice of forgiveness is our most important contribution in our healing of the world.”
The letter reminded me that making a mistake is only a regret if I didn’t learn from it. Then it’s time to let it go.
I forgave myself and the co-worker that wrote the letter. I let go of the past as I shredded the letter and gave thanks for the reminder. Praise God!