Go Outside and Play!

We don’t stop playing because we grow old; we grow old because we stopped playing. –George Bernard Shaw

Are you having a fun summer? Have you taken time to play? I remember what summer was like growing up. It was non-stop play time–at the beach, in the park, at the pool.  There was always something to do and some place to be.

As adults, we have to think about grown up, serious things. There are decisions to make, problems to solve, and so much work to be done. Everything feels like an effort and stress takes a toll on us. We forget to play.

Author, spiritual teacher and visionary, Sonia Choquette shares, “Play is not frivolous. It is medicine. When you play, the ego finally gets to exhale. It loosens its grip on how everything is supposed to look and who you are supposed to be, and in that softening, your spirit slips back in through the door. Joy floods the blood. Spontaneity returns. The heavy fog created by too much outside noise and influence begins to lift, and you can hear yourself again.”

When we play, we are letting our inner child know that they are okay. Our fears fade away and our spirit is renewed. We set aside the troubles of the world and allow ourselves to feel wonder and joy. That lifts our vibration and we feel a sense of freedom and peace.

Some helpful tips to finding play:

–Step outside with no plan and no phone, and let your feet wander wherever they want to go.

–Put on a song that makes you happy and dance in your kitchen as though no one is watching.

–Do something with your hands purely for the joy of it. Paint, draw, cook, garden, with no goal but pleasure.

–Be silly with a child, a pet, or a good friend, and let yourself laugh from your belly.

–Play a game you loved when you were young.

–Say yes to a small adventure, even if it is only a new way home.

Play, enjoy, and watch the magic unfold.

Love,

Christine

P.S.  There will not be an August newsletter. I am taking my inner child out to play. See you in September.

Give Anxiety a Time Out

Anxiety character from InsideOut2 movie.

“Hi! I’m Anxiety. Where should I put my stuff?” InsideOut2 Disney Pixar Movie

Meet Anxiety

She shows up and moves in like an unwanted guest with lots of baggage and bad habits. She incites feelings of dread, fear, and uncertainty. What if you take the wrong step? What if things don’t work out? What if what you are doing is a waste of time? What if

She usually arrives in the middle of the night and projects worries of doubt and fear. Doubt leaves us feeling disempowered and accelerates feelings of fear into chaos and confusion.

What story are you telling?

Resist the temptation to let anxiety tell your story. Does your story have the elements of a scary movie plot with a very predictable ending? Or are you sharing possibilities for something new to be revealed? If we can name the emotions before they turn into anxiety, we can slow down our thinking and change our vibration. Breathe. Pause. Center. What am I believing? What experience does this remind me of from the past? How can I see this differently?

We get to choose the story we tell. We choose whether we will react out of emotion or respond out of calmness. We choose whether our movie plot ends tragedy or in harmony. We choose whether we stay attached to the old way of being or are willing to step into newness.

Find just one possibility

Here’s the thing – We are all dealing with serious issues right now. Almost everyone I know has shared about waking up in the middle of the night feeling anxiety and dread. Our nervous systems are on high alert right now. The world does not feel like a fun or friendly place to be. 

However, if we are willing to see just one area of life in a new light, we can see a new possibility. If we are willing to tell just one new story, we raise our vibration and contribute to the vibration of humanity. If we can use one spiritual practice to reconnect us with faith, we move in a direction of love.

Remember to breathe

When we take steps to become aware of our thoughts, beliefs and emotions we can tone down anxiety and tap into our spiritual practice to bring us back to harmony and peace. Breathe. Meditate. Pray. Chant. Focus on qualities of joy, Call a friend. Hug a pet. 

Give anxiety a time out. Take a breath and live in the moment. Allow Love’s healing power to take charge. Remember you are loved.

Spring Cleaning for the Soul

“The offering up or cleaning up ego stuff is called purification. Purification is the act of letting go. This is done out of discriminative awareness. That is, you understand that you are an entity passing through a life in which the entire drama is an offering for your awakening.” – Ram Dass

An interesting phenomenon happens when you commit to being more loving in your life: Out of nowhere, it seems, your mouth can speak unkind words or your brain can think angry thoughts. It’s not your imagination. And it’s all part of the healing process.

Whenever we declare our highest intention, unwanted emotions show up to be healed. Unless we are aware of this fact, our experience can be discouraging and disappointing. The process is a type of spiritual purification–cleaning out the old feelings so our new intention can shine through. 

The first time I declared joy as my purpose, I cried at least once a day for 60 days. I felt so frustrated until I understood the process. I finally let myself grieve and released all the pent-up pain and suffering. The crying eventually stopped and the quiet presence of joy filled my heart.

Author Toko-pa Turner says, “Learning to welcome our dark guests is a source of great personal potency, but it also changes the way we move in the world.” She says as we learn to love all aspects of ourselves, we come into greater compassion for others.

Claim a divine ideal for yourself—joy, love, peace, harmony, clarity, unity or wholeness. Know that this ideal is already working its way into your thinking, speaking and into the cells of your body. Just be patient. It has to do a little spring cleaning first. 

Affirm: Love flows through my very being, touching everyone I meet.

Be Willing to Receive

“If you don’t go after what you want, you’ll never have it. If you don’t ask, the answer is always no. If you don’t step forward, you’re always in the same place.” ~ Nora Roberts

I’ve had some interesting conversations since last month’s blog post, “You’ve Got a Friend.” I received feedback from a variety of women who say they have trouble asking for help. I don’t want to bother anybody. I feel like I feel incompetent when I can’t do things myself. She is so busy, I can’t ask her for a favor.

Yet, so often we sit home alone wishing we had a friend to visit or talk with or someone to help us with something we can’t do ourselves. It turns out that most of us are well trained in the art of giving and being of service. We love to give to others! We are quick to respond to preparing a meal, running an errand, taking someone to a doctor appointment. But asking for ourselves brings up feelings of guilt, shame and fear of rejection.

Asking for help requires vulnerability. We are admitting that something is too difficult to do alone. We are acknowledging our limitations and that can feel risky. Many of us were raised with messages that being vulnerable is a sign of weakness. If we cried, we were told to “get over it” or “toughen up.” If we struggled, we were encourage to “power through.” That old programming is still operating in the background and often stops us from moving forward.

It takes courage to ask for support or help. Here are some tips that may come in handy:

1.Identify what you need. Is it a ride to the doctor? Help with a household chore? It can be even as simple as asking to talk on the phone.

2. Be clear and direct. When I was moving, I asked a friend to come over for two hours to help me pack a section of my kitchen. Ask for specific task and time if possible.

3. Accept help graciously. There is no need to apologize or make excuses. Accept their help with grace. Be willing to receive.

4. Express gratitude and appreciation. Acknowledging their help is a way of respecting their time and effort.

5. Pay attention to the times you are willing to receive. Record the experience in your journal. It can help you build confidence and self-respect.

I was not a receptive receiver for a very long time. I was only willing if I could control the outcome. Once I became aware that my resistance was blocking the universal flow, I was able to open my mind to receive. Receive not only on a physical level, but also being open to divine wisdom and grace.

Be willing. Be open. Allow yourself to receive. 

Affirm: I am willing to receive all the Universe has to offer.

Caring for our Tender Hearts

“Pray for a tough hide and a tender heart.” –Martha Graham

Have you noticed that the holiday season sometimes feels like a rollercoaster of emotions? There are moments of joy, sadness, grief— all in the same day. 

We are all a bit fragile during the holidays. Our hearts are especially tender. There are expectations, demands, promises, hopes, fears, joys and worries all swirling together. And then often, there is grief. Grief from the Christmas memories from long ago, loss of friends and family, aging and loneliness, We have our own personal challenges to deal with as well as feeling the pain of humanity’s injustices. 

We do our best to honor the ups and downs. As we practice awareness, we are more willing to accept and allow our emotions and not get thrown off balance.

Here are some simple steps I take to bring me back to balance.

• Be mindful and acknowledge how I am feeling.

• Breathe and be in the moment.

• Be grateful for all the blessings in my life.

Love myself first and extend that love to others.

• Speak with loving kindness.

Here is a prayer that brings me back to Love:

I am grateful for this new day. I embrace this day knowing God is revealed as the radiant, energizing, joy-filled presence of Love. I know Love moves into the very cells of my being bringing light, harmony, and peace. I accept guidance to willingly let go of any resentment, hurt or disappointment. I invite the healing presence of Love to wash away any pain or darkness. I enter this day with a grateful heart and receive all the blessings Love has in store for me. And so it is. Amen.

May the light of the season guide your days with wisdom, fill your heart with peace and surround you with the presence of love.

Word Power

“You are word. You are an aspect of God being brought forth into light.” – Paul Selig. I Am the Word

Have you ever noticed that some days a brain fog seems to set in and we forget about the power of our words? We often speak aloud words of criticism, complaint, and judgment coming from our inner critic instead of empowered messages of love and inspiration from Spirit within. The words of the critic come from the head, and the empowered words of Spirit originate in the heart.

From The Book of Knowing and Worth, Paul Selig reminds us, “What you give your authority to becomes your God. And if you want your pain to be your authority, or the memory of your pain, that will be your claim, that is what you put into your basket, that becomes your broadcast, or your resonance and you call it back to you in every moment of your waking life.”

I don’t know about you, but I prefer not to call back my pain and suffering every moment of my waking life. I choose to be aware in the present moment. I choose to pay attention to my thoughts and words.

When we become aware of the inner chatter, we notice that often the things we say are not positive and uplifting. Practice speaking words of gratitude and empowerment out loud. Your heart needs to hear your voice. When your voice speaks words of truth aloud, your vibration is raised, your awareness is heightened, your experience of love expands.

Speak your gratitude aloud for loving friends and family, for your delicious meal, for your spiritual awareness. Affirm your success, prosperity and good health. Our words are adding to the vibration of humanity. Let’s make them count.

Wisdom from Ernest Holmes: “There is something within you which is completely aware of its oneness with power, of its unity with life. Lose all thoughts of discord and fear, and permit the true pattern to come to the surface.”

In this season of gratitude and thanksgiving, I am deeply grateful for you. Thank you for your loving presence in my life. You are a treasure.

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