Send Love Instead

“Everything you judge you fear. Think about it. Ask yourself what you judge, and then ask yourself why you fear, and you will know this in your heart once and for all.” Paul Selig, Book of Love and Creation

It is very popular to play the blame game in today’s society. We often look a scapegoat, someone to blame for the problems of the world. We blame the government, stock market, banks, wealthy people, poor people, big business, other countries and our parents for the pain and suffering of today’s world. We point fingers and worry about what others are doing or not doing. When we do that, we are simply  spreading fear.

It’s so easy to judge what others are doing and give advice to how they should change their behavior. Actually it is a way to avoid looking at our own limiting beliefs and fear-based thoughts. An important step on our spiritual journey is to take responsibility and pay attention to what we are doing, thinking and saying. 

Responsibility is not about blaming ourselves. Responsibility is the ability to respond. It is the freedom to take action. It is the power to change. When we take responsibility, we face our fears and take steps to move past them.

Practice looking at what you want instead of what you don’t want. Ask each day “What is mine to do to make the world a better place?” Release judgment and anger and send love instead. When we send love we raise the vibration for everyone.

Be gentle. Practice compassion. Having compassion for ourselves and others opens us to love and be loved. Compassion awakens love in us. Love is the healing power beyond judgment and blame. There is always a choice.

Speak this prayer attunement aloud whenever you are feeling separate, angry, or judgmental. Speak it aloud for yourself when you are feeling fearful.

I am Love through the One I see before me.

I choose to see you, _____, in Love.

I choose to see you in your worth.

I choose to see you in your right to be.

I see you in your perfection.

I see you in your beauty.

I see you in your choices.

I am Love through the One I see before me.

Word I am Word.

Accepting Newness

In addition to creating happiness in our lives, we need to cultivate the spiritual practices that lead to joyfulness, especially gratitude. We need to live from a place of gratitude and joy.” Brene Brown

Happy New Year! Another whirlwind of a holiday season has passed. We try to catch our breath as we turn the page of the calendar to a new year.

We can sometimes feel conflicted declaring what we want in the new year.  We want change and yet we resist it. Sometimes we like change as a concept rather than reality. We want to have something new in our lives but we don’t want to let go of the old way of doing things. We resist change because we don’t like to be uncomfortable.

What if we looked at change as an opportunity for growth and transformation, rather than something to be feared? What if we embraced the discomfort and uncertainty that comes with change, knowing that it is a necessary part of our evolution?

The new year is an invitation to welcome new beginnings and let go of the old patterns and habits that no longer serve us. The new year is an opportunity to open to new experiences and opportunities that come our way, even if they make us uncomfortable.

Gratitude is an important step in accepting newness. There is something powerful in appreciating the present moment, the journey that has led us to where we are now. We expand our awareness when we feel gratitude for the lessons we have learned, the growth we have experienced, and the people who have supported us along the way.

In this new year, l invite you to make gratitude your guiding principle. Let’s find joy in the little things, the simple pleasures of everyday life. And let’s remember that change is not something to be feared, but something to be embraced and celebrated.

So here’s to a year of growth, transformation, and gratitude. May we have the courage to embrace change, the wisdom to appreciate the present moment, and the gratitude to be truly happy. 

Blessings for a grace-filled New Year.

Joyful Connections

“When conditions are sufficient there is a manifestation.”
— Thich Nhat Hanh

We made wonderful joyful connections! We talked and shared, laughed and danced and even shed a tear or two. 

Our Wisdom of the Heart Women’s Retreat was truly a celebration of the Spirit. Lauri Jones blessed us with her amazing voice, original music and united us in harmony. The beautiful forest at Alton Collins Retreat Center provided a sacred backdrop as we came together in love. We left uplifted, renewed, reconnected and recommitted to our spiritual practice.

Here’s what the retreat sisters had to say:

This retreat has opened up my heart to feel love again, to forgive more deeply and to further appreciate who I have become.

Connecting with other spiritually like-minded women was an enormous gift!

I call this retreat a soul tuning journey: being in the space which allows me to be completely protected while I explore the areas of my life that needs to grow.

I come alone and leave with a new tribe. The laughter, tears and very real sharing is heartfelt and I can feel it in the very core of my being.

I’ve been attending Rev Christine’s retreats for 10 years and they always take me deeper within myself.

I love the sacred, beautiful, healing container you create for us to come together and go deep into spiritual practice.

I love the mix of spirituality and fun, the peace of Alton Collins and the wonderful food that nourishes us.

I love Lauri’s voice, her style and her gentleness.

The Wisdom of the Heart retreats really do help reveal the Wisdom of one’s heart-self.

Rev Christine has a way of acknowledging each person’s experience in a way that values the person.

This was an opportunity to find time to rest and relax and deepen my spiritual awareness. I found new “sisters” and grew closer to the ones I already knew. 

This deeply spiritual retreat, as always, changed my life. It moved me from anxiety to wholeness and gratitude.

I appreciate the safe and trusting environment for all participants, allowing us to connect with each other and our souls.

Staying in the Flow

“When you get into the consciousness of the flow of the creative process within you, there will be a constant inner-direction in your life, leading to a deep sense of meaning…”  Eric Butterworth, In The Flow Of Life

Some days, I am more efficient at catching my thoughts moving in a downward spiral. I was working on a project recently and realized I was thinking there was not enough time, energy or resources to complete it. I felt my stamina fade and my brain start to shut down.

It is important to catch thoughts of limitation quickly before they have time to take hold. Thoughts that spiral down are similar to a runaway car speeding down the hill. If we let them go, they will run away with our imagination and make up all kinds of stories of worry and fear.

The practice is to stop the limited thought quickly and realign ourselves to the universal flow of life. 

These affirmations from In The Flow Of Life by Eric Butterworth lift me out of limitation and energize me back into the flow.

Be still and know…I am in the flow.

I move forward in the flow of life; unhurried and unworried.

I am in the flow of life, and I move easily with the flow. I am radiantly and enthusiastically alive.

I am free from tension, stress, and strain. I go forward in the flow of life—unhurried and unworried.

I am a child of the universe, established eternally in the healing stream. I am strengthened, renewed, restored, and made whole in every way.

I know my responsibility is to see with the eyes of love.

I am in the flow of life, and I relate easily and lovingly, patiently and understandingly with all persons.

I go forth in the joyous certainty that whatever person or situation may come to me this day, it will be good, for I will be in the flow of good. And if I should have even a fleeting moment of concern, I will simply let go…and let flow.

I accept the reality of this situation, but not its permanence. I know that this, too, shall pass away.

Copy these into your phone or print this page and keep it nearby. Use them as  reminders of being in the flow.

Most of all, know that you are loved.

Whisper of Divine Wisdom

“Those who are awake live in a constant state of amazement.” – Jack Kornfield

“How do I know if my inspirations are coming from God from my own thought?” A client asked me this great question recently.

There is a point of surrender on our spiritual journey where we know that the essence of who we are is much greater than the flesh body and more immense than our limiting thinking. When we connect with the infinite presence of God we know there is but one power, one presence, one life. We are not separate from God’s Presence but one with it.

We know that all activity, ideas, opportunities, come from this creative Source. One way to deepen this experience is the practice of gratitude. Every time we give thanks for something good, we acknowledge our greater connection with God.

There is no magic to trusting our intuition. It is a continual practice to listen to insights that we have. One of the reason’s why the time we spend in silence is so precious. Intuition comes as a whisper and a quiet presence.

I invite you to use this attunement from The Book of Love and Creation by Paul Selig:

I am choosing to live my life in accordance with my higher knowing. And I am aware that all that is before me is created in conscious choice in alignment with my Creator. As I move forward, I change my knowing to align into congruence with Divine Will and with my own requirements for my freedom. I am Word through this intention to stand in my freedom. Word I am Word.

As we develop inner awareness, we are able to discern the difference between the ego wanting attention or the whisper of Divine Wisdom. As we deepen in our practice, we trust the inspirations of the heart.

Affirm: I am grateful for Divine Wisdom guiding me each day.

Radical Compassion

“If you want others to be happy, practice compassion. If you want to be happy, practice compassion.” Dalai Lama

Have you ever noticed that the minute you declare that you are going to do something powerful, renewing and uplifting, everything unlike that comes up to be healed?

You start the day with your heart open wide and willing to express love to those around you. And then stuff happens. You find out your co-workers forgot to invite you to the Zoom call meeting, and you were left out. Your brother failed to show up for his turn at taking care of your parents, leaving you to step up once again. Your spouse complains about the delicious meal you spent the afternoon preparing.

So the community that you were ready to embrace, love and be compassionate for just pushed your buttons and poked at your tender wounds. Your belief in unworthiness was activated, secretly making you feel less than, invisible and unappreciated.

One of the most important tools for emotional healing is self-compassion. Author Tara Brach says what we need is radical compassion,“recognizing the vulnerability of all life in our heart. It means having the courage to love ourselves, each other, and our world.”

We start by freeing ourselves from the stories of the past, letting go of blame and criticism. We can’t control anyone behavior but we can learn to respond rather than react. We find ways to nurture and encourage ourselves the way we would reassure and inspire our best friend. We learn to tell a new story about who we are and what we are capable of accomplishing.

The courage to love and appreciate ourselves, opens us to love and accept others just as they are.

Affirmation: I love and accept myself. I see my divine reflection in others.